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The 7 Year Itch
Shortly after I turned 20, I was lucky enough to “lock in” the girl of my dreams. As two newly weds under the legal drinking age, we couldn’t rent a car so that really limited where we could go, so we went to Gatlinburg, stayed in the mountains and tried to figure out if we were crazy, stupid, ambitions, smart (or all of the above) for getting married so early.
Fast forward 7 years and two kids later, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
There is a theory out there that after 7 years people tend to re-evaluate their relationship. I’m pretty sure that number has shrunk a bit, but just go with me for a bit….
Andrea and I have not had extended time away, just the two of us, since our honeymoon 7 years ago. I feel we do a pretty good job finding time for ourselves, but going away, for more than a few days, without the kids, was long overdue. We did a lot of re-evaluation this week and came to the same conclusion – we are two very lucky people who love each other now more than we did when we first got married.
I don’t pretend to know everything there is to know about marriage or parenting; heck, most of the time I’m learning from mistakes – but at least I learn and progress. It took me 7 years to realize how important it was to get away with my bride. We both love our kids, and missed them while away, but we also have missed each other a lot the past 7 years.
I don’t plan on making that mistake again.
When was the last time you went away with just your signification other?
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I think going away with your spouse alone at least once a year is the best thing you can do for your marriage. In April we got away alone for a week, which is the longest we’ve ever left them. We enjoyed it so much we decided we need to do it twice a year. So, last week sneaked away for a night just prior to Thanksgiving to do a little reflection and Christmas shopping. Good for you guys!
Thanks Pat. Getting away for multiple days was great. We try hard to go out on a date, without a trip to the grocery story on the agenda, but getting away for several days was needed. I’m sure we’ll continue this tradition in the future.
wow.. good for you guys.. stinks though how the vacation started.. but glad you guys were able to get away..
Last time Karen and I got away was like you.. our honeymoon. It goes with out saying we had a lot on our plate the past 5 years.. so maybe next year will be our year for a get away just the 2 of us.
I think we deserve it.
I think you deserve it as well, my friend. You should really try to do it soon!
We took our first trip away without kids on our last anniversary; which was our tenth one. We went to Miami for a couple days & road tripped through the keys down to Key West. It was the best thing we could’ve ever done!
now the key is to make sure your next trip takes place before another 10 years passes (or 7 years in my case)!